“Bitter makes me better.”
I always see this statement on my Facebook news feed and on my Twitter home page. But seriously, does it really makes us “better”?
I met so many bitter people. But as what I observed in their lives – on their perspective about life, love, relationship, and many others, it didn’t made them better. In fact, they grew worse than before because it already destroyed their perspective about those things.
What does bitterness can do to us then?
Bitterness is a maximum-security prison specially made for you. And who created that prison? It was YOU. How come? When a person we are bitter with is doing something, even just simple breathing, it ticks our nerves and every stupid and irrational thoughts are already pouring out on our minds. It’s an everyday torture for us when we see and think that person, but technically, that person is doing nothing on us. Who’s the prisoner right now? Is it that person or us? And who’s the jailor? That person or us? Obviously it was us. In short, we are the loser in both sides.
In conclusion, bitterness will only make you worse. It will take away your joy, your ability to trust, to love, to believe. Let go of that bitterness for you to move on with peace.
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
– Ephesians 4:31-32 (ESV)
I hope this short blog will help you choose.
Being bitter means you will live in your past. Living being haunted by your actions and decisions you’ve made or living always remembering the hurt that people had done to you. Being bitter will result on missing God’s breakthroughs in your life.
On the other hand, being better means you will leave your past behind and moving forward in life. Whatever wrong decisions you made before, or maybe no matter how hurtful people had done to you, you will leave that behind and looking forward to what God has prepared for you on the way.
How about you, what will you choose? Will you still live in your past or you will move forward? Will you choose to be bitter? Or better?
Make your choice.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.
– Isaiah 43:18-19