Category Archives: Parents – Son/Daughter relationship
Like all growing teenagers, we love to discover new things. We met new people, new things to try, and of course, it’s the start of developing a new “love interests”. Thanks to this new era, most especially to Facebook, teenagers of this generation are about to discover more new things.
And yet, as we “discover”, some effects are very obvious. Like they started to make a lot of excuses, on some going home “early” – as in EARLY IN THE MORNING. And others. (You know what all those)
But, the first who will notice our change is none other than our parents. As we continue to live in the effects of our “exploration”, the “sermon” portion is about to begin. But instead of listening in their corrections, we intend to resist it and rationalize ourselves to them. And the most common line that we use is: “Hindi niyo kasi ako naiintindihan eh!”
Is it really that they don’t understand us? And why I intend to make “sermon” at you, I’m still a teenager? (19, was that qualified?)
First, our parents somehow experienced the same thing when they are still teenagers, so they know what it really feels. So, as they grow and have us, they are teaching us about do’s and don’ts of life.
A wise son heeds his father’s instruction, but a mocker does not respond to rebukes.
– Proverbs 13:1
Second, we must know what is our KEY RELATIONSHIPS. At this point in our life, our key relationship is our parents. Yes at some points, they don’t understand us, but still, we must honor them. And how to honor? By means of heeding in their corrections. Because such corrections will help us as we move on in our life. Just read Luke 2:41-52, Jesus, who was 12 years old at that time, has shown us the importance of key relationship.
And why I intend to make some “sermons”? Because I’ve experienced the same thing, and God taught me what is really right and the right thing is I must honor my parents and they are my key relationship at this time.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”
– Ephesians 6:1-3
Have you ever feel that kind of feeling? That feeling occurs sometimes if one of your friends or members of your family (That’s the most hurtful one) always saying profanity on you. Most especially if a member of your family (Most of the time, our parents always doing it) always doing that to you. Like for example:
“Hoy!! *#@&! ka!!!”
“&%*#@?! ka, pumunta ka nga dito! ^$(@! ‘to!”
“Lumayas ka dito, &#*$(@! ka!!!”
“#$@%!! ka nakaupo ka na naman dyan sa computer!! Babasagin ko na yang #*@%^$#$?! computer na yan eh!”
It really hurts right? I always feel that. Sometimes, that experiences often leads to our rebellion in our parents (Which turns into anger), joining a group that will help to “release” your anger to them (You know what I mean), running away from home, turning to vices like smoking, drinking, taking drugs, etc. And we feel like nobody loves us because those people who will love, care, and understands us are doing these things.
And here’s the Good News, God hears our cries and He knows this situation:
“And You save an afflicted people; But Your eyes are on the haughty whom You abase.”
– 2 Samuel 22:28
As we are experiencing this kind of abuse, God is our comforter and our refuge:
“The LORD also will be a stronghold for the oppressed, A stronghold in times of trouble;”
– Psalm 9:9
God alone is the one who will comfort us in this kind of distress. Just keep the faith in Him and He will provide you a refuge.
And if you have hatred to your parents because they did that to you, you must repent and pray to God to change their hearts. Remember, they’re still your parents and you must honor them for it has a promise from God:
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise—“so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”
– Ephesians 6:1-3
And here’s another thing, God is also teaching us how to be a good parents when it is our turn now to be a parent:
“Parents, don’t come down too hard on your children or you’ll crush their spirits.”
– Colossians 3:21 (The Message)
Whatever the situations you’re in right now, whether it is verbal abuse or…whatever, God is our refuge and He will give you the love that you never had before.